Boots on the Ground

On today's GPS, Fareed Zakaria hosted a discussion about the future of American involvement in Afghanistan. His guests for this were Rachel Reid, Max Boot and Nir Rosen. All were knowledgable and articulate, though I had much greater sympathy with the points of view expressed by Ms Reid and Mr Rosen than I did with that of Mr Boot.
 
Unfortunately, it is Mr. Boot who is advisor to the US military. On the topic of  negotiating with the Taliban he declared that

"...what General Petraeus realizes is you have to fight them to set the preconditions for negotiating. And this is a point that was driven home to me by a NATO officer in Kabul who said you have to knock them on their backside before you offer them a helping hand up, because if you reach out to them right now, they're going to slap you away. "

This is what I call the Fascist fallacy; In this example it is the American military version: "First, you acknowledge me as your Master, then subordination to my will shall make you free". 

This is a riff on the common testosterone story that plays out in office politics everywhere, the one we all endure when some wannabe justifies his obsessive pursuit of dominance by agruing "First I obtain supreme power, then I will make good things happen". It just doesn't count as a 'good thing' unless he forces it on you.

So who has the better grip on the concept of democracy, the US Army stomping through somebody else's kitchen, or the people who live there ready to die resisting foreign force ?